Updated: Apr 23, 2022
How do you feel about waiting?
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I know personally, things like waiting in traffic.. Waiting for my food.. and waiting in line makes me feel both irritated and antsy. ( I hope I am not alone in this!)
However, learning how to wait is one of the most important things you can do for yourself. Most of your life will be spent waiting for what you want. By the end of the post, you should have all of the tools that you need to wait gracefully. Waiting is also crucial in our relationship with God. His timing is perfect, and the issue is that when we try and go ahead of God’s timing, especially in relationships, we end up messing things up. This blog post will also speak to me because I am still learning how to wait gracefully!
What inspired this blog post
This week, I experienced waiting firsthand, and I almost threw myself off a sharp emotional cliff because I was trying to rush.
I have wanted to take a particular action for over three years, and each time I went to do this, I would run into an issue. It was money issues, another time it was transportation, and yet another time it was because I got sick. (Who can relate?). But this time, I had made up my mind that I would take this action. I got so into the details that I started taking giant steps without thinking and without God’s approval. Thankfully, right before I made this poor decision, a wise person came through for me and helped me see clearly. It was further revealed to me that God’s timing is so important. I believe that I was meant to complete this task, but I was doing it at the wrong time. And timing is everything.
So, a big question you may have is
WHY DOES GOD MAKE US WAIT?
These are a few main reasons that I have found to be true in my own life.
1. He wants to mature you: This is a big one. Sometimes, we do not realize that we are (in a word) undercooked. You might think that you are ready for something when in reality, you need a few different things to be straightened out before moving forward. For me, it was relationships. I watched as my close friends got into these beautiful relationships throughout high school. I felt so lonely and inadequate because many guys would not look at me twice. Mentally and physically, I felt so ready for a relationship at the time. But looking back, I realize that I was genuinely immature and would have hurt people if I had jumped into a relationship at that time in my life. I got into many toxic situations ships because of my impatience. Some of these took me years to heal from, and I only wished I had waited for the right person to come along instead of jumping the gun.
2. He wants to breed perseverance in you: Romans 5:3-4 talks about it and its making. The verse says, “Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings knowing that suffering produces perseverance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope.” Without going through trials, there is no way to have perseverance. One of the best things that happened to me was suffering from a health issue for ten years! Through that time, I learned so much about myself and longsuffering. I also now have the joy of knowing that there was a purpose for going through that process. A great way to remember this is the three p’s of waiting: perseverance, purpose, and process.
3. God's timing is perfect: I did not hear about the word “Kairos” until I started on my journey to my Future Husband. That journey is long and detailed, so I will be detailing all of the juicy details in my premiere novel here. Kairos timing is the word for God’s perfect timing, and it occurs when things in the physical line up with things in the spiritual. Kairos timing is something that none of us can understand because only God knows when the timing is right. The best thing about Kairos timing is that everything is perfect when it finally lines up.
4. Avoiding pain/protection: Have you ever had a crush on someone, and the situation did not work out for some reason? Then, later on, you find out that the person you had a crush on was a bad person? The situation has happened to me a few times, and every time I thank God for protecting me from that situation. Sometimes, when God says not now, he tries to protect you from further hurting yourself or others.
5. If you wait longer, some things will be of better quality: I don’t know about you, but when it comes to cooking, the longer I cook something, the better it turns out. There is just something about what happens when I have to roast or cook something for a more extended time that makes it taste 10x better. Sometimes when there is something that we need to do, taking that extra time will result in better quality.
A real-time example of this occurred in my life. Initially, my novel “Since When Did Single Mean Sad” was supposed to premiere on Valentine’s Day in 2022. Because the book was all about love and what to do when waiting on God, I figured releasing it on that day would be perfect. But, I quickly realized that I would have to rush some things for me to release the book on that day, including ordering the correct Amazon Proofs to go with the book and finding the best Keywords. After much prayer, I decided that waiting on the novel would be better than rushing it.
Comment below: What is one situation where you ended up waiting on something, and it turned out coming out much better?
There are many other reasons why God may have you wait on something or someone. But often, the best way to know and understand why is to ask him yourself.
Now, the biggest question is, what do you do when you have to wait on someone or something? And what are the best ways to stay patient when you want things to happen now? Here are five tips that have helped me to wait.
And TRUST ME
I am an Expert Waiter. 😊
5 tips to make waiting easier
1. Trust in the Lord: One of the most significant ways to get rid of the pain that may come with waiting is to trust that the Lord has your best interest at heart. One of the ways that I found peace with God while I continue to wait for my future spouse is by trusting in him and letting him renew the strength that I know that I need. The bible promises that your paths will be straight if you trust in the Lord (Proverbs 3:5-6). So, I want you to ask yourself today. Is the reason you have trouble waiting because you don’t trust in the Lord?
2. Focus on other things: It can be effortless to get caught up in your feelings about waiting, to the point where you begin to start losing your purpose. When you begin to lose your purpose, you can begin to fall into depression and anxiety if you are not careful. Therefore, if you find yourself obsessing over the fact that you don’t have something, it may be time to find something else to focus on. Some great things you can do include joining a club, becoming a part of an online community (like the VIP email crew), and trying new things. You never know what will bring you joy until you experience enough new experiences and are exposed to them. This brings me to my next point.
3. Adopt an attitude of gratefulness: I talked about gratefulness in one of my other blog posts, which you can read Here and Here. Gratefulness and depression can’t coexist because they are opposite sides of the coin. When you adopt a grateful attitude, you automatically take your mind off what you do not have and put your mind on what you do have. Gratefulness is one of my favorite ways to be more patient and wait on the Lord, especially for his perfect timing.
4. Take tiny steps towards your goals while you wait—one of my favorite things is to break big goals into smaller ones. When I was writing my novel, I was overwhelmed by the enormous tasks. But I found that when I broke the steps down into smaller steps and did a little bit every day, I could see myself accomplishing the goals I set out for myself. Focusing on accomplishing your goals can make waiting a lot better.
5. Change your attitude about waiting: Your attitude is the difference between having a fantastic reality where you are happy, blessed, and moved and an unsatisfied, unfulfilled lifestyle. How do you react when you have to wait for something? Your behavior during these waiting times will change everything. Have you ever had to wait in traffic and decided to use your time by watching a podcast or listening to music instead of getting angry? How exactly did that impact your life? Now, imagine if you took that same energy and applied it to the rest of your life. I will bet that you would be surprised and happy about how much your life has changed.
Just because you apply these five tips does not mean that waiting will be easy. It is never straightforward to have delayed gratification. The thing is that once you finally receive what you have been waiting on, all of the tears, sadness, and faith will be worth it.
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